Sugar Daddies are generally accepted in today’s society. So why is it when older women date a younger guy, tongues start wagging.
You might argue social stigmas are a symptom of the patriarchal society we live in. Powerful men can live out their sexual fantasies with younger women but when older women date younger men, it’s called a fetish.
Even the labels given to older women that date younger men – Cougar and MILF – are derisory.
And it’s not just the general public that focuses on the sexual nature of relationships. An academic study published in the Journal of Sex Research that investigated the reasons why older women date younger men focused solely on the sexual aspect.
What nobody appears to consider is how women feel. In a patriarchal society, women generally feel undervalued in a relationship with men of their own age or older.
When mature ladies date younger guys, on the other hand, they have more to give to the relationship. And this is what most women really want. The mothering instincts of females is to give; to take care of people they love and nurture the relationship.
Breaking Down The Barriers
Research indicates there are a growing number of relationships between couples with disproportionate ages. Most interestedly, the number of age-gap couples in which women are the elder is a growing trend.
The “rise of the cougar” is reflected in an increasing number of niche dating websites that cater towards young men looking for romantic liaisons with older women.
According to an AARP survey, women dating younger men said they appreciated younger men for their strength, humor, openness, youth and passion.
The research indicated that social norms towards age-gaps in relationships are changing because women have more freedom of choice these days. They also have more to offer younger men than younger women – and the guys recognise this.
Research published in Psychology Today reveals there are several key reasons why some men prefer to date older women. The key finding is there seems to be a symbiotic balance between age-gap couples that same-age couples.
Why Young Men Value Older WomenA report published in today.com showed that younger men build confidence and self-esteem when they get attention from an older partner. In essence, mature women help younger men mature.
Younger guys also recognise that older women have more life experience, tend to be grounded and are more emotionally stable than girls in their 20’s and 30’s.
As a result, older women tend to have a clear focus on what they want in life. They are more assertive, straightforward and worldly-wise. Spending time with them is much easier. There are no dramas, indecision or temper tantrums.
Some men, particularly the more intelligent and sophisticated types, prefer the calmness and openness of older women. Dates are more likely to involve environments where they can talk or listen to cultured music rather than have a meaningless conversation in a nightclub or noisy bar.
People of all ages will still continue to cast aspersions towards older women dating younger men. Let them. At least a cougar feels valued in her relationship and her cub is having a hassle-free relationship most men can only dream of.
