Everyone can behave badly from time to time, but a few simple steps can help you increase your self-control and reduce your anger. Read how to learn to behave well in the most common situations and how to improve mentality and lifestyle, so that having good behavior becomes a spontaneous attitude for you.
Behave Well with Self-Control
Always be aware of the volume of your voice. Controlling the level of the voice is the most important action of your conduct. If you are having trouble maintaining an appropriate tone, stop and take a deep breath when you feel the intensity increase. Collect your thoughts and convey them in a respectful and reserved way. If you pay attention to the volume of your voice, you will be able to control it better.
Try to limit what you are saying to the person you talk to. You rarely have to speak to an entire group. Be aware of who you are facing and speak in a suitable tone of voice so that you can be heard.
Before you say something, ask yourself if you really have to say it. If it is not necessary for the conversation, simply avoid pronouncing yourself and practice this technique regularly. Meghan McCain Insists She ‘Adores’ Whoopi Goldberg Despite Explosive Fight On The View. Listen to the volume of the voice of the people around you and adapt to it. Change your behavior if someone is staring at you or has a negative reaction towards you. Your aim must be to adapt to any situation. Don’t draw unnecessary attention on yourself. If you try to prevail over others in some situation, you will likely end up enmeshing people.
Practice self-control in every aspect of your life by setting goals and trying to stay true to it. Make sure they are specific and long-term. Psychology studies have shown that abstract and grand thinking leads to self-discipline. [1] Instead of focusing on the moment, look towards more ambitious goals, such as being successful in school or in sports. Focusing on the future helps to behave well in the present.
Having goals will teach you the art of self-denial. If you fancy a drink, or go out and play video games, deny it. Start with small intentions, like banning yourself an ice cream on the weekend; move on to more demanding purposes, such as creating a football team. Stick to your goals and very soon you will have total control of your thoughts and actions.
Hang a sheet on which you have listed your intentions clearly in view: seeing them regularly will help you remember them.
Also set yourself behavioral goals. When in public, try to maintain an appropriate attitude and avoid anger.
Set yourself positive goals, like getting an excellent grade at school, practicing on the guitar until you are able to easily play a song, or training four times a week. The important thing is that you remain diligently faithful to your projects. Set concrete goals. Those too vague are easy to forget.
When you have the temptation not to live up to a promise or a goal, take a deep breath and think first of all about why you set yourself that purpose. Long-term commitments are more important than momentary impulses. Try to set up a system of punishments and awards. If you managed to stick to a strict diet for a week, treat yourself to a “day off”. Likewise, if you decide to skip a workout, recover it by working twice as hard the next day. Practices like these will lead you to know how to control desires and actions. Set long-term goals and find ways to achieve them that are specific and short-term.
Pay particular attention to social rules and standards, and if you feel like breaking them, hold back. In section 2 you will find more information on this; in general, however, be aware of the rules in any situation involving the social and always keep them in mind. If you notice that you are breaking a rule, practice self-control: breathe deeply and remember that you have the strength and self-discipline to stop.
Make a mental list of rules for any situation involving social life and make a note of it before opening your mouth.
Have a passive attitude, if the rules are not clear: see how others act and follow their example. If the atmosphere is relaxed and noisy, you can join the group without fear of misbehaving. When the situation is more professional, be formal yourself; if it is quiet, let yourself go a little but keep monitoring the volume of your voice.
Relaxation techniques, like taking deep breaths, are perfect for managing your mastery, but find the ones that best suit your personality. If you are about to break a rule, you can snap your fingers or pinch yourself. Whatever method you decide to use, it must be able to stop you in time.
Kat Irving is a reporter for Diving Daily. After graduating from NYU with a master degree in history, Kat got an internship at WABC-TV New York and worked on profiling local businesses. Kat was also was a columnist for the NPR. Kat mostly covers business and community events here at Diving Daily
