We all need routines. Routines make caring for our health and wellbeing easier and less stressful. Routines help us take tiny steps towards larger goals. A strict routine that cannot deviate is only useful for a few, yes, but overall we all have routines that aid in our lives. This applies when we are adults, and it is particularly true for kids. While you can always mix it up and try new things having an overall routine and structure can help kids feel more confident and secure. Routine is one of the first things they learn to trust, especially when your routines are anything but consistent.
The Importance of Routine for Kids
Routine is important for many reasons, but the top three reasons routine is important for kids are:
· Routine Offers Stability as They Grow and Change
One of the biggest reasons why kids need and crave routine is that it offers a level of stability as their bodies change drastically. They are constantly getting bigger, developing, and learning. Every day is a big new day of things they may never have experienced before, which is why routine helps give them an anchor to feel safe in this big world of the unknown. The best way for kids to engage with the world and with unexpected changes is when they have a routine they can rely on.
· Routine Reduces Power Struggles
Bossing your kids around can cause friction and frustration for both parties. Routine supersedes this. Instead of having to push your kids to go to bed, to eat dinner, or to brush their teeth, a consistent routine can make this a no-brainer and non-negotiable.
· Routine Helps Kids Take Charge
When there is a script, your kids can learn quickly what they need to do. This means they can start to take charge of things like packing their backpack, brushing their teeth, or getting ready for bed. Taking charge like this can help them feel more confident and is an essential step to building an independent, confident adult.
What Routine Can Look Like
Routine is very important, but it is important to remember that the routine you build doesn’t have to hurt you. If you feel too stretched out and unable to manage your job and parenting and all the other responsibilities in your life, then it isn’t just okay to look for outside help; it’s essential. Putting your kids in a nursery, for example, means putting them in a perfect environment for child development. They will play, make friends, learn social cues, and more. Nurseries can also be very consistent, even if you work flexibly and only need them one or two days a week.
You don’t need to be there for every step of your child’s routine. You do need to ensure that they are getting the most out of their routine. That they are learning, that they are healthy, and that they are having fun. From having your parents look after them on set days to sending them to a nursery, all of these are part of your routine and can help build a happy, stable environment for your child.
Alton Clarke was born and raised in Syracuse. He has written for MSNBC, The Business Insider and Passport Magazine. In regards to academics, Alton earned a degree from St. John’s University. Alton covers entertainment and culture stories here at Diving daily.