How to Become a Good Friend of Someone

Alton Clarke
5 Min Read

It takes time to become a good friend of a person. You have to start by introducing yourself, and then get to know her and over time create a deep relationship with her. Some people have very little difficulty in making friends, while for others it is a challenge. However, there are many proven tips that can help you build lifelong friendships.

Introduce yourself to the person you want to be friends with. 

All friendships start from scratch and the first step is to introduce you. Find an opportunity to say hello and make your name known without seeming too insistent. You can do it at school. Introducing yourself becomes particularly easy if you have a friend in common with this person and you are all in a group together. If you are at a party, you can introduce yourself to someone, so that you both have one person to talk to. Introduce yourself to the people you need to work with for a project or business.

Answer the questions about yourself. 

It is normal for someone to ask questions after they ask them questions. Make sure to replicate in depth, without haste, and give him the opportunity to get to know you. Friendship is a two-way street, so it is important that you both have the feeling of knowing each other well in order to build a good relationship. Don’t dominate the conversation. When answering the questions, try to spend as much time as the other person used, so you don’t talk too much.

Avoid heavy topics.

 If you have just started dating a person, it is best to avoid controversial and personal conversation topics. Keep the conversation light and cheerful by talking about the things you have in common or what you want to know about the other person. If the conversation gets too personal, change the subject. For example, you can say, I’m not comfortable talking about this now. Amber Rose Praises Blac Chyna’s Incredible Body In New Post Proving They’re Back To Being Friends After Fallout. End the conversation or change the subject if you start talking about a controversial topic. Try: I understand that we both have different beliefs on this topic, but for the moment, let’s talk about something more fun.

Don’t be in a hurry to get to know the person you’ve just met. Avoid bombing it with dozens of questions. Even if you want to know her, you shouldn’t give her the impression she’s under interrogation. When you meet her on various occasions, for example at school or at the mall, take the opportunity to deepen her knowledge. It can take a few weeks or even a couple of months to get to know a person. This is not a process that can take place immediately or in a few hours. When you feel ready, exchange your contact information with herIf you have the impression that you know the other person well enough to want to start a friendship with them, ask them to exchange contact information with you. Depending on the communication medium you prefer, provide them:

Learn to be a friend. To become someone’s good friend and get the same consideration, you have to behave in a certain way. Reflect on your personality, identifying what your strengths and weaknesses are as a friend. Set the goal of improving one of your weaknesses, so as to become a better friend. For example, maybe in some cases you forget to reply to your friends messages, so you could try to always reply at least within a couple of hours.

Be yourself with friends. You probably wouldn’t like to find out that a friend’s true personality is completely different from what you imagined. As a result, you should always be authentic when in the company of friends.

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Alton Clarke was born and raised in Syracuse. He has written for MSNBC, The Business Insider and Passport Magazine. In regards to academics, Alton earned a degree from St. John’s University. Alton covers entertainment and culture stories here at Diving daily.